In collaboration with 'Get the trolls out',
Fodip participants and staff published three articles capturing different aspects of a conflict.
Article 1 by a participant at the Tough Options Moving forward project
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Erev Simchat Torah 2023 was incredibly fun, as per. The night that Jews celebrate Moses receiving the Torah at Mt Sinai on his exodus from Pharaoh's Egypt to the Land of Israel. On Simchat Torah we celebrate, and I did just that - I waltzed through the front door at nearly 3AM and went to bed, ready for a day of recovering afterwards. Normally I would wake up the morning of a holiday and find lovely little holiday messages lying unread on my phone, but this Simchat Torah was much different. Instead, I woke up to a WhatsApp message from my friend:
"Hey, I have just seen the news coming out of Israel, I hope everyone you know is OK x"
First I'm hearing of this, what's going on? Has a rocket found its way over Gaza or Lebanon border, or has there been ethnically divided riots in Jerusalem (again)? Neither of those, but nothing could have prepared me for the things that I saw being livestreamed and broadcast from the Gaza Envelope, and even more so for just how much it wreaked havoc on me and on all of my friends. In a few hours, several people around me had lost friends and family in the attack with even more having survived the atrocities to tell the story of what happened to them on the 7th of October.
But still, nothing could have prepared me for what it at best apathy for Israelis and Jews, and it's worst a bloodlust. It felt like the biggest kick in the teeth to see people that I was on good terms with before then so eager to post videos of people enduring what no human should have to, proclaiming that there is context to this, that the wholesale slaughter of people before the world's eyes cannot be blamed on the people doing the slaughtering by either overtly or just implied by the fact that they were Israeli Jews or that they were just in Israel. "Would you not do the same if your whole family had been killed?" - No actually I wouldn't, and neither did anyone else in my family do the same when they experienced the same dehumanisation. During WWII my grandmother lost her whole family at the hands of German soldiers alas this didn't give her motivation nor justification to partake in massacring Germans after the war. On the other side of my family, my grandfather's family was made into refugees by the Irish Civil War, with plenty more of my forefathers being made into refuguees and persecuted at different points in history like in the Great Hunger, Alhambra Decree, Edict of Manuel I and the Edict of Fontainebleau. But nonetheless, I and my ancestors never felt the need to seek retribution through the blood of innocent people. So many people willing to make excuses for the murder of your own really affects you, especially knowing that those same excuses wouldn't be made and are not made by those very same people when the victims don't have an Israeli or Jewish element to them.
It hurt to see people close to me calling for Israeli Jews to leave, but then making excuses for and celebrating the attack of Israelis and Jews abroad, like at Makhachkala Airport. It hurt to see people employ double standards for us that they wouldn't have for anyone else of a different background. It hurts that wherever we go, it's never good enough. In or out and it's not good enough for people to care about Jewish issues.
One theme common amongst these types of thinkers is that they can't possibly be antisemitic because this is all just directed against Israelis specifically and not Jews, because Israel is an occupying state or that Israel serially abuses human rights and it pains me when people with these views can't see their own bias, it hurts when you can tell so easily that their views come from underlying antisemitic prejudices but they're just not aware nor willing to admit that part - because they would never excuse the murder and harassment of Han Chinese people for the role that the PRC plays in the Uyghur Genocide, nor would they try to justify attacks on Russian civillians because of Russian crimes against humanity in Ukraine but when it comes to Israel, it seems like these universal humanitarian values go out the window and it really makes me think about which characteristic of Israel justify these attitudes - might it be the fact that Israel is culpable for Genocide? Well, no, because then why would they not say the same about Chinese people? Might it be because Israel continues a military occupation? Well, no, because then where are the calls for and justification of reprisals against Russian civilians? Is it because Israel is a perceived outsider that doesn't belong and is founded on settler-colonialism? Well then, I have yet to see anyone call for the same kind of action against Australians, or Americans. I really do wonder what characteristic about Israel really sets it apart from every other state in the world, from every other country that abuses human rights as state policy, I wonder if there is a characteristic about Israel that has historically been used to justify violence against a group of people for millenia that seems so conveniently to try and present itself just as criticism of Israel after the formation if the state in 1948.
When it's the people who champion their passion for social justice, equality, and unlearning prejudices and biases that espouse these views about you and your people, it really makes you feel uneasy about your being, and makes you question your welcome here. I have lost count of the number of conversations that I have had with different people who I previously were really good friends with, trying to help them see how what they're sharing and saying on social media harbours prejudice towards Jewish people, and it's even more saddening to ruminate on how most of our concerns and plight go unheard and ignored.
I should specify that I would very confidently call myself pro-Palestian, I yearn for the day when Palestinians can be free from oppression and occupation and everything that the Israeli state and its branches subject them to. I will call out disenfranchisement and dehumanisation where I see it. I have made plenty of enemies for myself in not contorting my opinion to fit within the mainstream pro-Israeli mindset, but for a number of the people that knew it, it still wasn't enough. I recently lost a friend in May, a friend that I considered myself very close with, and it wasn't that I harboured hatred and prejudice against Palestinians, in her words "my issue is your sympathy for the Israelis". It seems like it was never about championing human rights and equality for so many people, and it hurts especially that they are the people that we should trust to turn to in our times of need.
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Article 2 by another participant of the Tough Options Moving Forward Project. Oceans of Sorrow, Drowned in Guilt
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I don’t know how you’re doing but I’m so heartbroken and distraught by what’s going on. I’ve been researching to verify various claims. I’ve seen [many, many graphic] videos and pictures. My Lord. I want to do nothing but cry. We are too weak to do anything about it.”
A WhatsApp message I sent to a close friend on the night of October 11th 2023.
Let’s rewind.
I had reached out to my UK Jewish friends in the aftermath of Operation Al Aqsa Flood, what in history will be remembered as October 7th. I know how social media works; I know we live in information silos. I asked them if their families were alright; I asked them to share what they were seeing on their screens. They sent me sickening scenes of what they were witnessing unfold. I began to dive into them until I couldn’t breathe.
In the immediate days afterwards, once Israel began its response in Gaza, my feed – dominated, as expected, by pro-Palestine content – was flooded with death and destruction. And nearly 10 months in, it hasn’t stopped. I don’t need to dive anymore. I am drowned daily.
Bloodied brown bodies are now the norm. Dismembered children’s corpses – what would have once been our worst nightmare – have become ordinary. We’ve become desensitised – I’ve become desensitised. And I feel ashamed saying that out loud.
In October 2023, hardly 10 days into Israel’s assault on the Gaza Strip, we witnessed something else that now, in July 2024, doesn’t cause anyone to bat an eyelid. Dismembered bodies drowned in blood, encircled by fire – in a hospital.
War in a house of healing.
I remember coming home late from work that night, exhausted and about to fall asleep. It had only been a few days into the war. We didn’t know what was about to unfold. We had no idea how long this would stretch out – or the extent of death and destruction we would see in the months to come.
I hadn’t opened social media on my phone at all that day, but I had begun to receive messages and missed calls. “Have you seen what happened?” Al Ahli Hospital. The images I saw, the severed and bloodied bodies lying on the floor – I couldn’t sleep all night. There have been nights I cried myself to sleep; this night I cried myself awake.
Yet I feel guilty. What right do I have to lose sleep? I am safe, thousands of miles from bombs and blockades. It’s a strange form of survivor’s guilt that so many of us are experiencing.
Before October, we thought there were limits to depravity, but Al Ahli Hospital opened the floodgates. We would see worse in Al-Shifaa and beyond in the months to come. I am fighting feelings of powerlessness and despair every day. My prayers have not been the same since.
“My God! The calamity was tremendous, evil has become manifest, the veils have been lifted, hope has been cut off! The earth has become narrow, the sky’s blessings forbidden – yet You are the One whose aid we seek! You are the One to whom we complain! You are the One in whom we hope in ease and in difficulty!”
Translation of a prayer that I learnt when I was younger, but one I have never called out like this before.
The sickening, sinking despair in my heart on one side, the explosion at Al Ahli unleashed for me another ocean: an ocean of anger. Hypocrisy. Everywhere. In the immediate aftermath, there was uncertainty about who was to blame – there still is. But this section isn’t about who was responsible for the strike. If you, dear reader, when you started reading this section about Al Ahli Hospital felt yourself instinctively reflexing, preparing to absolve the IDF or Hamas from a crime before I even accused anyone – then there’s something for you to reflect on here.
I found people around me swift to blame ‘the other’, adamant it couldn’t have been ‘their side’, hasty to absolve ‘their people’ while the evidence (on this instance) was ambiguous. This is not to discount other war crimes (preceding or succeeding) that are much more clearly documented, but the fallout in my various circles after the Al Ahli explosion was a case study of what I call “people morality.”
I think back to the famous saying of the cousin of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), and who as a Shi’a Muslim I consider to be his first true, Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib (as). Famed contemporaneously for his spirituality, battle-prowess and wisdom, Imam Ali famously said during a civil war, “Know the Truth and you will know its people.”
No one is interested, it seems, in knowing the truth. It seems people come first, allegiances take priority, and morals follow based on who does it rather than what is done. What a broken world. I expect this from politicians, but to see it from friends across political, faith and cultural lines… I feel a sickness in my throat, a black hole in my chest.
Let’s give them a pass though on this occasion – fair enough, I accept that the evidence on this occasion wasn’t clear; it could be interpreted either way. There were compelling arguments for both. (“This isn’t a GCSE essay,” I think to myself writing this, “These are dead humans.”) But are those friends of mine (I use that term loosely these days…) even seeking out evidence or information that might paint a more nuanced picture in the long run? (Spoilers: I’m still angry and my hope in common decency, or even a pinch of humanity, decreases day by day).
I’m in a unique position where I work with and am surrounded by people from across religious and political spectrums – through FODIP, my day job at the crossroads of Interfaith and Politics, and through my friend circles. But even then, I had to make a conscious effort to try to be fair over the past few months. At the very least, even if I disagree in the end, I want to be able to engage with people I disagree with while having seen what they are seeing. I want to see the world through their eyes so I can help them see it through mine.
At some point early on I decided to follow the IDF on Instagram, alongside other pro-Israeli pages, and a range of generic Jewish channels. On these channels what I see – starkly, but not surprisingly – is that October 7th is on replay.
There is very little on display from Gaza beyond the odd tank moving through deserted streets – military images only. Not even one of the thousands of bloody images from Gaza that have flooded the internet. Information silos. I will save my fury and condemnations for another time – because it will achieve little – and I choose to be pragmatic. At the very least, now, I really get what others are seeing and, more importantly, what they aren’t seeing. Now, I can work with it.
I have spoken directly with those friends, Jews and Muslims, about this – some who have drastically different views to me, some closer to mine. One hadn’t heard about the widespread news of the 400:1 civilian to target casualty ratio at Jabalia Camp in November – something that mainstream anchors likes Piers Morgan covered and criticised. Credit to him though, even though he hadn’t heard about it, he didn’t try to make excuses when I showed him the evidence.
It goes back to something I said recently in Parliament: I have spoken with Muslims and Jews, Gazans and Israelis, and, at least in the UK, communities are uncomfortable with killing innocents. Everyone I speak to here across faith communities refuses to believe that their movement of affinity intentionally hurts the blameless.
It’s a low bar, but perhaps that can be a common foundation.
What’s important about that conversation about Jabalia wasn’t that I had a “gotch” moment. That’s not my goal. The way I approach dialogue, we got to a point where he openly accepted that he’s dealing with trauma – and it’s acting as a blocker. October 7th and the way he has experienced it through his social media has awoken intergenerational triggers and inherited tales from centuries of persecution – there’s a reason the Jewish community feels so scared. There’s a reason interfaith dialogue is near impossible right now.
Knowing this, understanding this, and trying my best to feel what he is feeling, means I won’t just throw information and facts at him. I have to be conscious of the blockers: If I want to help him understand, I must navigate that landscape in which he lives. People are emotional creatures as much as we are rational ones. I am doing my best to be more compassionate.
Another Jewish friend recently told me “I don’t follow Palestinian journalism,” yet for many months he posted the Israeli flag every few days unconscious of what that flag is coming to represent day by day. I don’t think many of my Muslim friends follow Jewish pages either for the record – some think antisemitism is made up, I’ve heard claims ‘it’s exaggerated,’ and some make statements I must hope are jokes – and when it’s clear they’re not, I must put myself in the firing line and say something about it.
I am tired of people not trying. I need people to take steps. We all do. I am tired of us defaulting to vile tribalism and neglecting everything that makes us human.
A lot of my frustration comes back to this – perhaps overly simplified – question. It’s not that challenging to become conscious of what other people are thinking, feeling and experiencing these days: is it really that hard to click a follow button?
Maybe it’s just easy for me: “you’re an empath,” I’ve been told. Maybe, but I also decided to try. I’m simultaneously heartbroken and angry and a thousand other feelings. I want to cry sometimes because I am banging my head against brick walls all round.
The social media pages I consciously decided to follow – and multiple conversations with Jewish friends – have made me deeply aware of how hypervigilant and terrified the UK Jewish community is right now.
The only reason I’ve been able to have meaningful dialogue with any of them is because I understand what they are feeling: I can chart pathways around the blockers and the trauma triggers better than most to reach a point of empathy.
God tests us in different ways. Geographically distant from Gaza, ours today is a test of patience, wisdom, compassion, empathy – and emotional resilience.
The blessed day more of us reach that fabled land of human understanding, that impossible dream of empathy, we can open the door to hearing and feeling Palestinian/Jewish suffering – which our talk partner likely isn’t seeing or hearing as much as us – without shutting the door on Jewish/Palestinian humanity, pain or dignity.
I know it’s not comfortable, be you Muslim or Jewish, to seek out these pieces of information or to have those conversations. Yet it’s the only way. We collectively must find the courage to challenge falsehoods, Antisemitism, Islamophobia and all forms of dehumanisation in our circles – it’s the only way. The first step is to learn. The first step is to make ourselves uncomfortable.
So that is my plea. Start. Read something discomforting. Have an uncomfortable conversation. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes.
What will the result be? Let me tell you.
It was a Sunday afternoon. I was in a conflict resolution workshop organised by FODIP, learning the essentials of mediation from a seasoned expert. I roleplayed as a Jewish-Israeli professor in a UK university. My Jewish friend was the professor’s Palestinian student.
I begin to dive deeper into the role. I have spoken with people from the Jewish community a lot over recent years – and particularly since October. I draw on their stories and experiences to make my character as real as I possibly I can. I think of my close Jewish friend who has been assaulted on more than one occasion. I echo words about what October 7th meant to ‘me and my family as a Jew.’ And very quickly, I can hear my voice cracking. I must hold back tears.
I’m not Jewish, I’m not Israeli. My political outlook is distinct from the person I’m pretending to be in this exercise. Yet I can feel her emotion – and it brings out mine; emotion that is so close to the surface, so close to bursting. I’ve been pressing it down for nearly a year, in guilt and pragmatism and weakness. It doesn’t take much to force it out.
There will come a day when we cry together, a day we mourn and rebuild, but if we wish to build that tomorrow, we need to feel what the other is feeling today.
Article 3 by Lucy Downing (Project Manager, TOMF) and Mansi Chandna (Monitoring and Evaluation Officer at Fodip) Shared voices: Impact of social media on conflict by FODIP
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“In glowing screens, young minds find strife, A digital storm that stirs their life, Conflict's echo, a ceaseless tide, imprints on hearts where shadows reside.”
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Have humans ever witnessed conflict, in such detail, live on our mobile phones? 
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Social media, whether we like it or not, has become a medium to which violence can transfer to other countries, transgressing borders and national identities. 
Why do young people in the UK care so much about what is happening in the Middle East? This common question poses a challenge to our emotional responses to the horrific violence we witness. It challenges our determination and commitment to continuing discussions about Palestine and Israel. 
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It is a particularly striking contestation to young people of faith backgrounds in the UK, particularly Jews, Christians and Muslims. Despite ethnic and religious Jews consisting of only 0.5% of the England and Wales population, with Muslims approximately 6.5% (2021 Census), many young people in the UK have cultural, religious and familial connections to the region. So, unsurprisingly, they really care about what happens to the people who live there. 
Social media has been a significant source of communication with those who live in the region; Instagram and Facebook allow young people to check-in with friends and family. In the extreme circumstances many face in the region, this has meant checking for the safety, or even survival of loved ones in recent months. 
It is therefore, unhelpful to dismiss social media as a hindrance for the younger generation. Baby boomers have expressed disapproval of their children’s indifference to the filtered lenses of mainstream news. Young adults in the past 8-9 months have been watching the violence in Gaza, Israel and the Occupied Palestinian Territories directly from journalists on the ground.
Concerningly, studies suggest a link between repeated exposure to graphic content and increased anxiety, depression, and even symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). This ‘vicarious trauma’ can occur even for those not directly involved in the events depicted. Repeated exposure also runs the risk of desensitisation for some users, regardless of religion. Violence becomes the new normal, almost numbing any emotional response. While religious teachings emphasise compassion or non-violence, the consumption of contrary content makes it a frustrating experience, creating further detachment and dissociation. This can be especially troubling for young people in the UK who follow stricter interpretations of their faith. 
However, conversely, witnessing atrocities can strengthen the resolve of some religious people. They might feel called to action, like providing aid or promoting peace based on their religious teachings. Religion also provides a safety-net and hope to cope with the trauma being experienced second-handedly. 
We heard one of our Muslim young participant say that she tries to only use social media on weekends, which is due to the discipline encouraged by her Muslim parents. However, since the events in the region, she expressed she is obsessed with watching the news on social media, and feels addicted. Resolve in social media has become the new normal trauma response. They watch the news before going to bed and begin their day with scrolling on social media. It becomes an endless loop and always occupies their mind, maintaining high stress and anxiety levels.
Many people feel that taking adequate breaks from social media helps them to decompress from emotionally-charged content. Breaking the trigger-cycle of violence in the brain promotes focus on positive aspects of life. However, this is very subjective and also privileged. Not everyone has the luxury to switch off and continue with their lives, as expressed by many young adults. The guilt and shame, too, impacts their mental health, given that their loved ones and fellow believers are suffering on the other end.
Considering how media is a fourth pillar of democracy, modern age social media is the main source of information that creates opinions and beliefs, often through the lens of influencers, celebrities, and peer groups for the youth. These further amplify polarised views, leading to stress and confusion among young people as they navigate conflicting narratives and propaganda. Small echo chambers form around these groups due to the algorithms depicting only one-sided content. This gravely impacts their ability to rationalise or hold space for other perspectives. Amplification of one perspective, negates the possibility of another, therefore forming stronger beliefs that are further difficult to change.
At FODIP, we learn from young people that social media greatly influences their sense of identity. For some, exposure to the conflict on social media can strengthen cultural or religious identity and solidarity with their respective communities. Others might experience internal conflicts regarding their cultural or religious identity, especially if they are exposed to diverse viewpoints that challenge their pre-existing beliefs. At FODIP we encourage participants to diversify their information sources, to avoid being entrapped in echo chambers, and to hear from other perspectives.
Some young people become more politically active, participating in online campaigns, protests, and advocacy efforts related to the conflict. However, at FODIP we have found that they also experience a lot of fear about expressing their opinions that might not be accepted by others. They struggle with lack of knowledge or sometimes even feel pressured to post, simply to align with their peer groups. There have been many instances reported to us where young adults have lost their jobs for expressing a particular opinion siding with one party.
Further, young people may face online harassment or bullying due to their expressed views on the conflict, leading to social isolation or strained peer relationships. Verbal fights erupt in comment sections and often escalate to hate speech depicting racism. People become ‘keyboard warriors’ who hide behind the keyboard, deceive their identities and propagate islamophobia and antisemitism. Instances of cyber bullying and harassment have significantly increased, impacting young adults who are still struggling to cope with the trauma of the conflict.
One would hope for social support in such instances, however, we have found that existing relationships have also suffered due to opposing views. Especially in countries like the UK, where people from different communities reside together, isolation and polarisation have exacerbated tensions within communities, particularly in areas with significant Jewish and Muslim populations, leading to real-world conflicts and divisions.
One of the most significant challenges social media poses to its users is the spread of misinformation. With the fast-paced dynamics of these platforms, individuals are less-likely to check the reliability of their sources. We have witnessed emotionally provocative images and videos, which tend to insight impulsive sharing of information, with disregard to the consequences of such actions.
Young people often feel the pressure to post on social media, but not all feel empowered with the background education to support their reposted comments. But should a lack of historical and political knowledge urge us to disregard curiosity and concern towards what other humans are experiencing in the Middle East?
Educators can feel disempowered amongst the vastness of information that young people are bringing into classrooms. ‘Miss, am I antisemitic if I say, “From the River to the Sea”’. Fearful of saying the ‘wrong thing’, teachers can easily fall into the trap of not saying anything at all. FODIP have always supported educational institutions, and has increased school, college and university workshops due to the high demand in recent months. We recognise the issue is the silence we reinforce around children and young adults’ curiosity, which is dangerous to their own exploration of significant issues which ultimately, have a huge impact and polarise UK communities.
Gone are the days when we could monitor and fact-check every piece of information young people are exposed to. Instead, FODIP equips young people with the tools to approach information on social media with a critical eye. This means upskilling young people, not to side with the most preferable Instagram Influencer or celebrity, but to adopt a set of skills necessary for achieving moral agency. Part of our mission is to encourage individuals to step out of their ‘echo chambers’ and expose themselves to a range of perspectives, reaching different news platforms. In doing so, young people are empowered to adopt informed beliefs, rather than being tethered to the beliefs of celebrity idols. Producing awareness of what political spectrum their news is formulated by is a key start; developing the ability to identify what institutions and individuals could be influencing the messages of information outputs. Interrogating the sources of information means questioning, is it ‘reliable’? Engage in a conversation about what ‘reliability’ and ‘trustworthiness’ means. Encourage self-reflection- what impact does my reposting have?
An unhelpful approach to social media is to demonise it. Another unhelpful approach to the information regurgitated from these platforms is to dismiss or silence it. Social media and technology can be empowering tools when used correctly. Learning ways in which we can all use it safely, healthily and responsibly is key.
Disclaimer
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FODIP is a registered charity, governed and supported by Jews, Christians and Muslims. It takes no political position, other than a concern for the rights and well-being of all the people of the region. Their mission is to promote community cohesion by enabling positive and informed conversations in the UK between Jews, Christians and Muslims on difficult issues, specifically those relating to Israel/Palestine.
FODIP has been facilitating programmes that bring together young people from diverse perspectives, a practice established before October 7th. FODIP's aim is not to draw equivalence between ongoing events but to acknowledge that pain is pain, regardless of its source, and that true understanding arises from listening to individual experiences.
And that these are views and opinions expressed by individual participants from our programmes and do not necessarily reflect FODIP's views and position.